Saturday, 19 December 2009

16 daddy Christmas tips

I stumbled upon a Driscoll list of Christmas tips for dads ... I'm sure you can guess which one is a cultural misfit for the UK!

’Tis the season for Dad to drop the holiday ball, stress out as the money is being spent for presents, and miss yet another providential opportunity to lovingly lead his family. So, this blog is intended to help dads not fall into the same old rut of holiday humdrum, sitting on the couch watching football and eating carbs, but rather intentionally plan out the upcoming holiday season. Our children grow quickly and if we miss the sacred moments God opens up for us to connect with and bless our families, everyone suffers and we set in motion generations of missed opportunity.

#1 Dad needs a plan for the holidays to ensure his family is loved and memories are made. Dad, what’s your plan?

#2 Dad needs to check the local guides for what’s going on to make fun holiday plans for the family.

#3 Dad needs to carve out time for sacred events and experiences to build family traditions that are fun and point to Jesus. Dad, is your calendar ready for December?

#4 Dad needs to not let the stress of the holidays, including money, cause him to be grumpy with Mom or the kids. Dad, how’s your joy?

#5 Dad needs to give experiences and not just gifts. Dad, what special memories can you make this holiday season?

#6 Dad needs to manage the extended family and friends during the holidays. Dad, who or what do you need to say “no” to?

#7 Dad needs to ensure his family is giving generously during the holidays. Dad, who in need is your family going to adopt and bless?

#8 Dad needs to schedule a big Christmas daddy date with his daughter. Dad, what’s your big plan for the fancy daddy date?

#9 Dad needs to schedule guy time with his son. Dad, what are you and your son going to do that is active, outdoors, and fun?

#10 Dad needs to help Mom get the house decorated. Dad, are you really a big help to Mom with getting things ready?

#11 Dad needs to ensure some holiday smells and sounds. Dad, is Christmas music on the iPod, is the tree up, and can you smell cookies and cider in your house?

#12 Dad needs to snuggle up and watch some fun shows with the kids, especially the little ones. Dad, is the DVR set?

#13 Dad needs to take the family on a drive to see Christmas lights while listening to music and sipping cider. Dad, is it mapped out?

#14 Dad needs to help Mom get the kids’ rooms decorated. Dad, do the little kids get lights or a small tree in their room?

#15 Dad needs to read about Jesus and pray over his kids. Dad, how’s your pastoral work going with each of your kids?

#16 Dad needs to repent of being lazy, selfish, grumpy, or just dumping the holidays on Mom. Dad, are you a servant like Jesus to your family?


Matt Blick said...

would be interested to hear what you'd say the big UK countercultural thing is. I can think of several...

I really like Driscoll but I found this post of his quite legalistic in it's tone. Most of these things are entirely cultural and are not non-negotiable elements of biblical male headship. What do you think?

Sean Green said...

I find him a helpful provocation, even if I don't agree with all he says. I too often detect a prescriptive approach yet I always try to remind myself God is using him despite his short comings.

Personally I need to stir myself at christmas to lead my family well given it comes after an intense 4 month minstry run (I feel like I want a rest from leading anything!)

My key cultural issue was the suggestion of driving my kids anyway whilst I drank cider ;o)

Karen said...

Can I be so bold as to ask why Driscoll limits this to Christmas? My idea of a good Dad is one who strives to do this all year round, not just when the holiday season starts.

On the up side - the Dad in this house is doing well :-)