Monday, 6 April 2009

Proverbs 6

Do not lust in your heart after her beauty, or let her captivate you with her eyes (v25).

Solomon devoted a lot of time to warning against adultery. Adultery festers in the heart when it fueled by boredom, familiarity, insecurity, unreality and lust.

I have occasionally met women with captivating eyes - their every look seem to invite me in to know more. They were always shocking encounters.

Why am I blogging on this? The effects of adultery are truly awful & incalculable and as far as I can tell, none of us can inoculate ourselves guaranteeing we won't go there.

What we can do is tell our closest friends our greatest weakness, so they can look out for us. We can avoid being alone for regular, extended periods of time with members of the opposite sex.

We can guards our hearts by choosing to be satisfied with our wife/husband. And we can be confident that we will finish strong by God's grace, without minimising the clear warnings from the bible.


Karen said...

Sean, I also think the responsibility for avoiding adultery also lies with the partner. As married people we need to be constantly vigilant that we are putting as much effort into our marriages as our partners. There are times when we all fall short of this and if the complacency is extended over a period of time, we feel neglected, unloved, used and pretty worthless. At times like that we become vulnerable to the attentions of members of the opposite sex and it's incredibly easy to suddenly find yourself in a position you regret. Husbands are told in Ephesians 5v33 to love their wives as they love themselves, but this, in my view, also applies to the wife with reference to her love for her husband.

It's all too easy to become laid back during marriage, to leave the hard stuff to the other one, to stop making an effort and take each other for granted. And it's that nonchalance that starts the search for excitement, appreciation and flattery elsewhere, which as you quite rightly say, leads to shocking encounters and incalculable consequences.

And you're also right, whether we're Christian men and women or not, none of us can say we won't go there. But with prayer and the support of good trusted friends, we can avoid falling into the trap.

Sean Green said...

Hi Karen - thank you for your helpful comments. We can never be complacent with our marriages ... like a garden they need tending or weeds will grow.

I am really enjoying your blogs, refreshingly honest and thought out.